Found these words on another blog ... words from a wisdomous soul...
Son, people used to get married because they wanted to spend a lifetime with someone they loved and respected, to share in the joys and struggles of family life, and to be there as a comfort and companion as their days grew long.
Unfortunately, in today's world of Legalized Abandonment (euphemistically called No-Fault Divorce), this is no longer possible. The entire weight of law and popular culture work to destroy your marital union.The sad fact is, with the majority of women out there, it is a mistake to get married. No matter how much you are attracted to that pretty young women, no matter how sweet and seductive she acts, you must look beyond her individual charms.
You must only commit yourself in marriage, to become as one flesh in the Eyes of God, with a woman if she meets the following standards:
1) Her mother and father are still married
2) She is a virgin
The reasons for number one are plain enough: our ideals in life come from our families, they provide us with our sense of reality and normalcy. If she is from a broken family, that is her paradigm. In her heart of hearts, getting divorced is not a bad thing, she has probably heard words of false wisdom to that very effect on countless occasions from her own mother ("We were better off apart", "We didn't want you kids to see us fight", etc).
It is also a fact that apples don't fall far from their tree, and that daughters inevitably resemble their mothers in deep genetic and psychological ways. If her mother could not get along with her father, even with the precious lives of their children at stake, that is a bad sign that she is not from a quality stock of womanhood. Breeding sometimes skips a generation, so she might rarely take after a motherly grandmother, but don't bet on it. This is the highest word of wisdom I can impart to you on this subject:
"Broken marriages run in the bloodline, passed down through the mother."
The reason for number two expressed above is also easily enough understood and hardly bears elaboration. The fact is, first love is the strongest, and a normal woman will go to great lengths to perpetuate the bond with the first and only man she has ever loved. If you are that man, your marriage will be strengthened immeasurably.
Avoid a woman who is hard-hearted, overly stubborn, or who refuses to yield to your will. Test her well in these things before your wedding date.
Good luck, my son. Finding yourself bound to the wrong woman is a curse unequaled. Trust me when I say, you are better off alone than with the wrong woman.
